Have you recently learned your partner is pregnant? We imagine you’re feeling scared, overwhelmed, in denial, and even angry. Although our name is Aim Women’s Center, we help men sort through an unexpected pregnancy too.
Are you asking yourself…
Every one of these questions is valid and you deserve some answers. At Aim Women’s Center, we can provide some answers with our no-cost services.
Here’s where to begin:
After you’ve verified the pregnancy is viable, it’s time to discuss your options. It’s important to support one another while you’re making a decision. This is a difficult time for both of you. Being pregnant, her moods will swing while her hormones change. If you remain steady, it will help calm her.
Ask her what you can do for her. Offer to go with her to all of her appointments. Even though you may no longer be together as a couple or you do not see a future together, you are both equal parts of the equation. Your voice matters.
Although abortion may seem like an “easy” out, it has many physical and emotional side effects. At Aim, we’ll be happy to sit down with the two of you to discuss abortion procedures, side effects, and possible risks.
If you’re against abortion, speak up. Many women have said if they had known their partner was against it, they never would have had one.
Choosing to make an adoption plan is hard, but also courageous. It means you and your partner are putting the needs of your child above your own. We have trusted adoption agency referrals to share with both of you.
We’re sure being a parent right now is the last thing on your mind but it is entirely possible. Being a good father doesn’t require you to marry your child’s mother. Many men are actively involved with their children outside the home. If you both choose to parent or co-parent, there are many resources available for you.
Men tend to think because she’s the one pregnant they don’t have a say, but she needs to know how you feel. We’re on your side.